Overlook an offense and bond a friendship; fasten on to a slight and—good-bye, friend! –Proverbs 17:9 MSG
Everyone wants to be liked, and everyone enjoys having kind things said about or to them. But let’s face it, that’s not always reality. It’s been said that 10 percent of the people we’re around every day, don’t like us. We’ve all experienced rejection; it’s part of life. It’s not actually what happens to us that’s so important—it’s more about how we respond to what happens.When someone disagrees with our opinion and voices that disapproval, our feelings get hurt, and we feel rejected. Rejection makes us focus more on ourselves and less on others. The result? A pity party. Suddenly we find ourselves attending a party of one, the victim of our own thoughts. What if we could see others’ disapproval not as a rejection of us personally but as a rejection of our opinion? It’s okay to disagree.We don’t have to agree with everything others say, nor do they have to agree with us. We can agree to disagree. Recognizing their rejection of our opinion, idea, or plan for what it is—not as a rejection of us—is a very liberating concept. Pity parties are totally overrated and a sad existence. Why not join the rest of us imperfect people and enjoy life?
Offenses will come, so choose ahead of time not to be a slave to them.
Jesus knew rejection, yet He still loved those who rejected Him. Don’t let perceived rejection steal your purpose.